Tone policing

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A tone argument or tone policing is an informal fallacy or rhetorical tactic in which someone focuses on the tone or emotional expression of an argument rather than its factual or logical content (thus called appeal to tone or appeal to confidence when it's the case). Not every criticism of tone is fallacious; it becomes fallacious only when tone, anger, emotional intensity, or perceived emotional intent is treated as a reason to reject an argument's premises, evidence, or conclusion.

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